Sunday, June 14, 2015


Tell me honestly: How many of you would arrive to a job interview in flip-flops, denim shorts, and a bikini top?

I take the liberty to predict that not that many of you. Even those of us, who consider themselves free-spirited and as such eschew corporate America culture, have to occasionally make compromises – if we want to get the job, that is.

Personally, I like breaking the rules. There are some companies I could probably never work for (those that ban tattoos, require pantsuits, and insist that employees accept Jesus Christ as their personal savior, for example). But you know what? Even I wouldn’t come to a counseling session with my client dressed in a short, tight, silver-sequined dress and Jimmy Choo stilettos.

Yes, even the most rebellious of us have to accept that there are some occasions that do require dressing in a more formal, professional way.

Which is why I don’t understand why it became a new trend to trash schools that actually insist that students don’t walk around campus half-naked.

Most recently it’s Chloe Cross, a Californian high school graduate, who is celebrated in media as a hero, because she wrote sarcastically into the yearbook an apology to all those who “failed their classes because of her naked midriff”. And of course, everyone is all excited, because apparently it’s a sign of patriarchal oppression to insist that girls attend school clothed!

Personally, I see schools as semi-professional space. It’s an environment that is supposed to prepare kids, at least on some level, for real life. As such, I honestly can’t see any reason why students should walk around with their underwear (or lack of thereof) showing. When, later in life, you are attending a meeting with your supervisor, are you going to display your cute Victoria’s Secret undies as well?

Now, I know what some of you will say: That the problem is not so much the dress code as such, but the fact that schools often argue that girls need to be covered because if they are not, they are distracting the boys from learning. And that’s sexism.

Let me be absolutely clear here: I do believe that the dress code should apply to BOTH sexes. I don’t blame Chloe Cross that she got upset with her school hypocrisy, when the dress code was reinforced only with girls, but boys could take their shirts of during lunch at will and no one seemed to mind. That’s not fair, and I would be upset too.

BUT: Do I also believe that having a clear view of boobs spilling out of a classmate’s tank top might be distracting to teenage boys? Actually, yes. This crusade of (some) modern feminists to make male sexuality something dirty and shameful is becoming absurd! Men ARE visual creatures; that’s been scientifically proven. They don’t need much to get sexually aroused. Ask your guy friends – I bet that every single one of them has a story how he got a hard-on in a situation when it was in fact very inappropriate (one of my exes, for example, once got a boner in church during a mass – and to this day he doesn’t even know why).

And before someone accuses me of doing so, then no, I’m not promoting the idea that we should teach our boys to behave like animals. They should definitely learn that girls deserve respect, and that just because a girl is wearing a short skirt, it really doesn’t mean that she is obligated to do sexual favors to anyone. I’m all for it.

But you know what? Boys deserve respect too! And yet we are slowly but surely becoming a culture when it’s considered normal to throw our naked boobs practically into their faces – and then start screaming SEXISM! CHAUVINISM! OBJECTIFICATION! when they actually look at them.

Personally, I see this not as a gender issue, but as a result of American prudishness - and inability to deal with human sexuality like adults.

Let me remind to those of you, who have mouth full of “objectification of women”, that it’s the sight of woman’s body together with touch and smell that leads to sexual arousal, without which we can’t reproduce. Therefore chastising men for their interest in said body is cruel and unnatural (leave alone stupid). “Inner beauty” and “beautiful soul” are wonderful concepts, but who did ever get a hard-on from a beautiful soul!?

The way I see it, any kind of extreme is always problematic. Islamic fundamentalists, who claim that just a mere sight of a woman’s body is so tempting that it puts men into danger of losing their soul, and it’s therefore reasonable to cover women in burqas and confine them to the house, are extreme. But modern feminists, who claim that women should have the right to walk in public naked and men are not allowed to see anything sexual in them – well, that’s extreme as well.

That being said, I believe that boys and girls should go to school properly covered and save bare midriffs for beach parties. Maybe the public would be more willing to accept school dress codes if they were worded differently, so the distraction of boys didn’t seem to be the one and only reason for it. Not even the most radical feminists could find anything wrong with a statement “we require a dress code to prepare BOTH sexes for the professional world” – or at least I hope!

But when it comes to distraction, well, let me just tell you privately that if half-naked Channing Tatum sat in class right in front of me, I’m telling you right now that I couldn’t focus on algebra either ;-)